She wanted to charm me with all things Japan. With good sake and rice balls. And of course I www charmed because I truly love Japan.
But Japan is not only that. It’s also the Sengoku period and the floating world.
Yet, her genteelness never lifted. “Dignity in silence,” she would say. And that was fine for a while. But a while became too long. After a while a relationship cannot progress without a shared experience of undignified things.